Making Your 2019 Resolutions Stick
At the start of the year, we are full of motivation to become better versions of ourselves. New year – New Me. Lets fast forward a few days and most of those sincere, steadfast resolutions are long forgotten. Why is it so difficult to stick to resolutions for change?
Deciding What Needs to be Resolved
One of the first problems we encounter is setting generic goals. Lose weight, save money. There is nothing wrong with such goals, but if we are not considering the bigger picture of who we are and why we want to achieve these things, our motivation quickly dissipates. Instead of setting spur of the moment goals, take some time to consider your long-term plan, your deeper purpose and how these goals will help you achieve that. Break your goals down into categories and honestly consider where you are in your life and where you want to go.
How Resolutions Make us Fear Failure
‘New year – New Me’ often sets the premise that there is something wrong with us. That we are not
good enough and so need to make major changes to be enough. This creates a negative perception of who we are, which then actually starts the year off on a ‘less than’ mindset.
By basing your goals on not being enough, you may find yourself setting huge, unrealistic goals. This sets you up for failure. No one can create massive change overnight. In the back of our minds we know we can’t lose 25 kgs by February and so we give up quickly, activating the negative mindset of failure.
What Should I do to Create Resolutions that Stick?
Firstly, lets start by changing the mindset in which you create your goals. Reflect on your last year and consider not only the things that went wrong, but what went right.
What did you learn?
What did you realise?
What did you accomplish?
The focus should be on your growth and the lessons that have come through your experiences. This is what should guide your journey for 2019. Instead of setting the same resolution as last year, consider why that resolution didn’t stick. Understand the lesson behind it and use this as a guide to create more purposeful and tailored goals.
Goals should also be created within an attitude of acceptance. Acceptance of who you are, your strengths and limitations, acceptance of your context and the people in your life. Acceptance does not mean defeat. Rather it helps to create an understanding of who we are and use our strengths to combat our limitations. To do this you cannot compare yourselves to others or use resolutions that others have created. Your resolutions need to be unique to who you are.
From a mindset of growth and acceptance, reflect on the different aspects of your life and consider your aspirations, hopes, needs, lessons and limitations in the various categories and how they may interconnect.
Some categories include: